Ben Sayin'

It’s about 1, maybe 2 in the morning and I can’t go to sleep.

Maybe it’s because I have no idea what I’m doing with my life, and I’m just taking things day at a time. Or maybe it is because I am still contemplating whether or not the move 800 miles away from everything I’ve known, was worth it. The change in the scenery, or the fresh start, or whatever. There’s so much on my mind. it just continues to spin and spin, and although my eyes are closed I am very much awake.

Maybe, just maybe I’m awake because of the arguing. There’s so much of it, I can’t handle it but I can’t do anything about it.

It’s f’ing 2 in the morning. I can’t. Continue Reading…

After a long weekend filled with soccer tournaments in some ridiculously cold and windy weather, I figured I’d do a post to ad to a post I did almost exactly 2 years ago. Consider this the 11th type of Soccer parent, but really I’ve seen this parent at plenty other events.

Here’s a little background before I go on: I don’t have a problem with the consumption of alcohol; consuming, or being around people who drink. This is a long way away from my TSA days where one would have to sign a covenant to explicitly stay completely away from consuming an alcoholic drink. It was forbidden… but that’s another story for another day. It’s when one drinks to the point of being a plain drunken mess in which I have a problem.

Going back to my original thought, please DO NOT come to your child’s event liquored up. I know, this might be a “holier than thou” post, but seriously who in their right mind thinks it is OK to come to your kids event drunk?

Let me tell you exactly what happens when you come drunk: Continue Reading…

Today, for Father’s day I want to do something I’ve done before. Today I want to start something that will run all week, and encourage you to invite others to join. This is a little different from your typical “Happy Father’s Day” post to all you dads out there, but I assure you it is going to be awesome.

As a dad, I always have projects or goals I am working on or striving for. From knocking stuff off the honey-do list, to pursuing adding another child into our family. I’ve found that sometimes without a project or goal I’m trying to achieve, I become stagnant.

I end up not doing anything.

As a father who is continually trying to improve his relationship with his family, and grow as a man, this is not a good place to be and I’m sure many of you are the same way as well. This is why I want to take this week to specifically concentrate on you dads, and the encouragement and support you need for your projects or goals.

Small, and Big.

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