Last week I had the privilege of walking around our oldest daughters new school. I attended a couple of meetings, got entertained by the Jazz Band, Girls Chorus, and walked out to the Orchestra. It was pretty neat, nostalgia swept in, and then I went for a walk.
As I was walking through the hall, I realized one thing.
Here I am, as a leader of a bunch of 6th grade dudes, and I have yet to visit them once at their school. I felt like a complete failure in the first year on this 3 year commitment I had made. (although really, it’s a lifetime commitment)
You see, growing up I remember always being a part of a small church. The youth group consisted of about 20 or so boys and girls, ranging from 4th to 12th grade. I was fortunate enough to see very good youth directors / pastors do their jobs well. One of the main things they did on the evangelical part is visit their kids for lunch every now and again. They could do this, because the amount of youth they had wasn’t overwhelming, and they would do this because, well it furthered their level of trust with the students and it allowed them to further gain…
wait for it…
I hadn’t even thought about entertaining this idea with my small group until I was forced into the building that our oldest daughter will be attending for the next three years. Here I am, talking about earning trust and learning how to gain access to the lives of students in student ministry, and I have yet to make a visit to any of their schools.
Sure, I’m too busy. I have a full-time job, 3 kids and a heck-of-a full schedule…but I speak of this here on Ben Sayin’ as if I’m doing all I can to gain this access to these students and their friends lives so as to break down the walls of the enemy and eventually speak truth.
I’m a hypocrite, for now at least, and the result is that one or more students missed this because I was too busy. Not acceptable.
I think about this and I begin to mentally prepare for the future, and how this year I’ll take a Mulligan in that department. Meeting them for lunch for a chance of Kingdom Truth down the road? Though I am not now, I surely plan on it.
Pastors, Student Pastors, and Student Ministry Volunteers alike, here’s a couple of questions I have:
- Do you think meeting them at their school is important? Why or why not?
- Do you do the whole lunch thing with your students? Is it encouraged?
- What kind of impact do you think this could make should you arrive at their school just to hang out?