Archives For Life Lessons

Something Hurts

Ben —  March 7, 2013

I can sit here, apprehensively reading through some of the stories that only the bravest of individuals care to share through their online portal to vulnerability. A few captivate me more than others; notably the ones that share similar life experiences. I know there is nothing magical about this, and since the human population is selfish in nature then it makes sense to want to know more about… myself?

Whether it be our own blog or reading a similar story somewhere else, many times when we venture in and peer into the life of another’s tragedy, the turmoil that may be taking place within draws similarities of the metamorphosis of a caterpillar. Most of us then see how we may relate with the author. Thus begins the action to respond in such a way to draw encouragement, advise, and praise. Hopefully followed by prayer. Continue Reading…

No Regrets

Ben —  February 21, 2013 — Leave a comment

Apo. Oh how you are missed.


Gloria Nunes – (grandma/Nana) visiting Apo on what would be his 100th birthday.

On Monday February 18th, my father sent me this image of my Nana visiting Apo for his Birthday.

It reminds me of when I used to hear the words “No Regrets” as a response to people, who would ask him how he was. At the time I didn’t really understand what he meant since I was so young when I first heard him say it, but as I got older it became a little more clear to me. Continue Reading…


Ben —  April 28, 2012 — 6 Comments

Let me tell you about the fastest dude on the planet.

Well, I mean the guy who I thought was the fastest dude when I was 16, and then I’ll tell you about what I thought was going to be one of my biggest disappointments of my life. Continue Reading…

My Black Bead

Ben —  February 13, 2012 — 6 Comments

For the stories that all of the 500+ small group leaders heard this weekend about:

  • Divorce
  • Financial Stress
  • Death
  • Abuse
  • Alcoholism
  • Addictions
  • Thoughts of Suicide

…and many more devastating things like this. There’s something that we should probably be taking to heart.

This is specifically to anybody who leads a group of kids in any sort of ministry environment and not necessarily all of my BFF’s at any of the North Point campuses. Continue Reading…


Ben —  August 22, 2011 — 17 Comments

Sometimes you come across situations that can make what one does volunteering in youth ministry seem like it’s all for naught, and other times the little part that you play in a persons life while volunteering makes it all worth it.

For instance, this past Sunday I was confronted by one of my boys who brought a friend. His request to me was to “bring him into our small group because he’s not found one yet.”

Normally, I would walk him over to an area with some people who would help him “connect” with other students who go to the same school as him, but since his friend brought him I thought it would be best for him to hang with our group and we can deal with it later. This Sunday’s group was led by my other 2 co-leaders since I was sitting in for another group, but after church let out I made it back over to see how they were doing. I was worried that by not letting him go through “the system” he might not be able to connect long-term with people who go to his school.

So I walk over and see that the new guy seemed to be fitting in. He even asked if he could come to our pool party later on in the day. So we gave him the address and we all went on our way.
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